Being Our Best Self
The moon is new in the 22nd degree of Leo at 2:55 pm GMT and highlights the challenge of living with purpose even in our most solitary moments. Her darkness reminds us that who we are when no one is watching matters. The quality of consciousness and intent we bring to each moment of our lives is part of the alchemy out of which is born our destiny. It is evermore vital that we attend to it no matter who may or may not witness our efforts. We may strive for greatness, anticipating affirmation and affection, acceptance and respect in return. But if, in doing so, we forget all those moments we’re alone, living out our everyday lives in the mundane world of shopping, cooking, cleaning, eating, we foster a disconnect between our public and private selves, our surface persona and deeper self. Do we bring the same level of commitment and intent to them? Do we strive for excellence in private or only infront other people? Do we seek to perfect our floor cleaning technique or just rush through it, mind elsewhere, until we can get back to ‘doing what matters’ again?
If we allow the gaze and opinion of others to define what matters in our life we place ourselves at the mercy of a very fickle master! What they love about us one day they may hate the next. Say the right thing and you’re popular, say the wrong thing and you’re toast! We cannot judge our own worth by the opinions of others any more than we can judge the worth of another by our own opinion. Human beings are simply too fickle and subject to all manner of forces and influences which shape our attitudes on a daily basis. Tying our own sense of worth to such an unreliable source is a recipe for disaster.
This moon reminds us that it is how we live not what we achieve that matters. Our significance lies not in worldly acclaim but in the presence we bring to our lives, the wisdom we embrace, the compassion we embody for even the tiniest creature, the most seemingly insignificant life. It doesn’t matter who is or isn‘t watching. If we make the effort before an audience and can’t be bothered when alone we foster a disconnect between our private and public worlds, between who we are on the outside and who we are within. The apparent insignificance of the moments when no one’s watching, the unspoken assumption that what we do doesn’t matter if it’s not going to get us ‘results’, undermines all other efforts we make in our lives. If we fail to foster our best self in solitude, its power is already diminished beyond measure no matter how many witness it elsewhere.
Which is why this New Moon encourages us to simply do the right and honest thing no matter when, where or who’s watching. Just do it because it’s the best thing to do, the wisest, the most open-hearted. We are here to do what life needs us to do even as we pursue our own agendas. The more carefully we listen to our inner knowing the more the two coincide. The more we seek external approval the more they tend to diverge. Progress is not made by keeping everyone happy but by sensing the nature of the present moment and knowing what it requires of us. Which may elicit all kinds of praise or it might not. It may make us very unpopular! But if it’s what’s needed, then it’s what must be done. The deeper we listen the more we come to know such truths and the greater our faith that if we do as life requires the deepest approval comes from within, knowing we have been true to ourselves and honoured the greater whole.
Everyone seeks attention, reassurance and approval in some way or other. It’s not wrong to do so – a fundamental flaw to be eradicated – but this moon reminds us that in doing so we give away the power to do what’s right in exchange for the imperative to do what others want. In the coming months we need to be free to do what must be done, which may not be the popular choice. Reflection now upon how that prospect makes us feel and what we can do to prepare for such a time will stand us in good stead. It’s time to recognise that every moment counts, every thought, word, deed and breath matters, in company or alone, praised or criticised, what truly matters is intent and attitude, awareness and wisdom. Do we act because we know our action to be true or do we act for what we will gain? Reflecting on motivation and intent will be richly rewarded with insight now as we head towards an eclipse season beginning on 6th September. Next month sees one of the most powerful periods of 2015. Today’s New Moon strives to make us ready, steady in the knowledge that honouring truth is infinitely more important than any worldly gain secured by living a lie.